Have you ever been so despondent, so unhappy that the sight of happy people brings either a lump to your throat or something else less pleasant up from down below?
Have you ever been in a relationship, whether it be with your friends, family, or spouse that wasn’t at its best, maybe even at its worst and the sight of others getting on with their significant others brings much the same result as mentioned above, or perhaps even thoughts of a more sinister nature?
I can remember a time when I couldn’t watch romantic comedy or so much as think of viewing a chick flick DVD cover without cynicism.
Images of smiley happy people, including getting that song stuck in your head, has never cheered me up when I’ve been down, how about you?
What about someone experiencing grief?
Take a look at these images in this blog for example, imagine yourself in any of the following situations visiting a counselling website covered in such images:
- Troubled teen at home or runaway
- Abusive spouse either verbal and/or physical
- Loss of a loved one
- Just been made redundant at age 58
- Household member, or even yourself, having just suffered an injury or been diagnosed with some kind of debilitating illness
- Struggling to make ends meet
- Don’t have time to rest (or be reading this, I hope insightful, blog)
- Even the loss of the family pet
Do any of these images bring you comfort, make you feel happy, make you want to hang around the webpage looking for helpful information and contact details??? No??
Likewise, pictures of unhappy people tend to not bring comfort either.
Hence you will only find generic pictures and boring photos taken by myself of generic and boring things. Because it’s with our hearts we comfort, it’s with our own genuineness, empathy, and willingness to be with people in their need. It’s not with stock images of feigned happiness, not that I’m saying these people’s happiness is feigned, my point is that from a place of hurt it’s not images that calm and soothe, its people themselves.
And I’d not wish the throat lump, other substance, or unhappy thought upon anyone.